Thoughts on My Target Audience

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Invigorate: give strength or energy to

I have been thinking a lot this week about the direction I want to take this blog and who my target audience is. I could be journalling instead, so it’s obvious I want something more. And then I always come back to my long-held dream which is to encourage others as I have been encouraged.

We are all on this journey called life and I know how good it feels to know I’m not alone in my struggles. There is always someone else out there who has faced or is facing similar challenges. I’m grateful for the information, resources and encouragement I’ve found on my journey to being at peace with my story and who I am. I’d like to offer hope and support to those who are on similar journeys.

If you can relate to any of the following then you are one of my target audience:

* Raised by toxic parents, including a narcissistic mother. Was the scapegoat of the family, controlled and manipulated. Suffered spiritual abuse and emotional neglect.
* Raised in a Christian home, but have been questioning my faith for the last 5+ years. Am enthusiastic about how much more there is to life and spirituality outside the box of religion. Still have much to learn and reevaluate.
* Love reading and am often talking about a book I’m excited about. Will be sharing my recommended reads.
* Am a wife and a mother to three children. Marriage and parenting come with their own sets of challenges and rewards, as many of you know!
* Have a great interest in psychotherapy and plan to do further study. Will likely blog about what I’m learning.
* Learning photography and will often preface a post with a photograph.
* Had a desire to write for years but not had the courage. Finding it now!
* Figure life is about unravelling mysteries or at least trying to. This blog will detail all sorts in my effort to understand life as I live it.


Blog Birth Date

13th December 2014

Definition of Unravel:

  1. to disentangle (something woven, tangled, or ravelled up); to disengage or separate the threads of.
  2. to explain; to clear from complication or difficulty; as, to unravel a mystery.

A lot is happening in our lives as I type this first post. Our house is on the market, we are planning a move around the world, and Christmas is less than two weeks away. In fact, the inspiration to start this blog came as my family returned from a trip to pick up a Christmas tree!

A lot is going on in my thoughts as well. You know the feeling when you start to get messages from all directions – from books, blog posts, conversations with friends and loved ones? That is what I’ve been experiencing these last few days.

It began with a final session for the year with our psychotherapist. After six sessions in the last three months, undertaken because I felt we were stuck in a rut in our marriage, we have reached a place of much more togetherness and understanding. The time and money we have spent have been well worth it. Old patterns in both of us have been addressed, feelings validated, plans encouraged. Leaving that last session I felt like we’d reached a milestone – a hard earned one. I also had a feeling that it was the first day of the rest of our lives.

And then came the exhortation from Lori Roeleveld in Running from a Crazy Man to be unreservedly me. To tell the story only I can tell.

And the blog post my Dad wrote, with the prompting to be brave enough to go public with what I have learned. And later in the same post the need to confront the system of power that is called patriarchy. Having been raised in a family where I experienced a certain brand of this debilitating and soul destroying control, I have a growing passion to empower others towards freedom by sharing some of my story.

And so this blog is born….


The above was written 10 months ago. It’s taken me this long to once again find the courage to begin. But something is different now…more on that next time.

A Little About Me

I’m passionate about life, love and learning and am on a quest to be the best me I can be.

I have been married to my first love for 13 years and counting. [As of March 2016 I’ve  begun the process of separating]. I have three amazing children and they challenge me to grow and heal from my own childhood so that I can parent them better. In the process of trying to understand myself and my family of origin I have discovered an avid interest in psychotherapy.

I grew up in a Christian home, attending church until February 2011. I can no longer call myself a Christian, but I do believe in a Source of Life who loves us. This is one of the mysteries I’m passionate about unravelling!

We’ve recently moved from New Zealand to the United Kingdom to be near my Dad. I missed out on 35 years with him so we are here to make up for lost time! Dad has been a photographer for many years. He has bought me a camera and I’m rather enthusiastic about taking pictures!

I once thought I knew a lot about the meaning of life, but now I realize how much more there is to discover. This blog is about my search for answers. I’ve wanted to write for years, but fear of not being good enough has held me back. Now I’m finding the courage to learn how to be authentically me.